I Don't Want To Do the Dishes!

Good afternoon and welcome back to The Javien Chronicles!   It’s been awhile but I'm glad to have an opportunity to write out my thoughts and to share them with you all.

Yesterday after a full day at work I came home and found myself a bit irritated.  I got home, sat my butt on my Lazy Boy chair and began to relax.  All the while my sweet and beautiful wife was trying to get the kids feed and prepare food for a picnic with our friends.

It was only but 5 minutes into my relaxation when my wife asked me to do the dishes.  Now I’m not against helping out around the house but we had a deal, my wife and I.  I was to focus my attention on bringing home the bacon and she would focus on keeping up with the house.

Now the guys reading this are probably saying, “Yeah, that’s what I’m saying!”  The women are probably saying, “Oh no you didn’t!”

I then made a comment that irritated my wife and I quickly found myself in deep dodo.  Though I knew I was in trouble, the dishes weren’t done because we were off to the picnic.

We got home late and I again encountered the unsightly scene of dishes overflowing the sink.  I looked at them and said, “No, I’m not doing the dishes today, it’s her turn!”
I went to bed and awoke bright and early.  As I lay there in bed I thought of how I could avoid the dishes.  Maybe I could oversleep so she would see the dishes first or maybe I could get dressed real fast and leave for work early. 

Then after a bit of an internal struggle, God spoke to me through John 13:12-17.  In this verse Jesus humbles himself and washes the feet of His disciples.

"When he had washed their feet, and taken his garments, and resumed his place, he said to them. “Do you know what I have done to you?  You call me Teacher and Lord; and you are right, for so I am.  If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should do as I have done to you.  Truly, truly, I say to you, a servant is not greater than his master; nor is he who is sent greater than he who sent him.    If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them."

As the verse began to sink into my heart, I realized what I had to do and I remembered what I had told another married man.  "There is no 50/50 in marriage".  "There is only 100/0".  If you learn to give 100% effort with zero expectation than you will truly understand how to make marriage work and understand the heart of Jesus.  Total and absolute giving of oneself to another.
To that I say, dishes!  Bring 'em on!

The Man of Many Hats,
Orlando Javien Jr.  

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Lord I'll Shut Up Now!

In my journey to faith I’ve encountered many who have said, “I can’t hear the voice of God” or “God doesn’t answer my prayers.” Have you ever said this?

I’ve come to realize that God does speak and that God does answer our prayers, we just don’t shut up long enough to hear Him.

I’ve come to find out in my own life that I don’t have a problem listening, as much as I have a problem shutting up.  An aunt of mine once said to me, “How could such a little boy have such a big mouth?”  I myself am very guilty of being in conversations with others and responding before they even have a chance of finishing. I know at times I do this with God and I believe many others do the same.

In a hurry with our busy days we rattle off our honey do list to God and run off and then wonder why He didn’t do as we prayed. When I’ve actually shut up and paused in my prayers I’ve come to know that God does in fact answer all prayers. In His still small voice sometimes He says, “Yes.” But God also says, “No, I have something better for you.” And sometimes God says, “Wait, you aren’t ready yet.”

Many of us can’t hear His voice because as quickly as we issue our commands we are off running. We don’t realize that the reason we are on our knees isn’t because it’s a comfortable position. We are on our knees because God is King and we are not

Remember the Lord’s Prayer isn’t: My kingdom come. My will be done, in heaven as it is on Earth.

The Prayer is:
“Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done. On earth as it is in heaven.” Matthew 6:10

 When we fall to our knees in prayer we are not to aim to bend His will but to be like Jesus and ask Him to bend our own will. “My Father, if it be possible, let this chalice pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.” Matthew 26:39

If you want to hear the voice of God make sure to stop and listen to Him after you pray. But most of all you have to read His book so that you know that the voice speaking in your head is God, because throughout the day I hear two voices and it is only through reading scripture that I can discern the two voices. One leads to life and the other to death.

Today, I choose Life!
The Man of Many Hats, Orlando Javien Jr.

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Me and Philip Rivers

On March 29th I had the great pleasure of sharing the stage with San Diego Chargers quarterback, Philip Rivers.

It was quite an adventure sharing my story to the 500+ men that attended.  I was very encouraged to see men hungry for a faith beyond ordinary.  I received a lot of great feedback from the men.  Many of the guys came to me and told me that I told their story on stage.  It's funny the male species is not very different.  The problem is that most men don't talk about their struggles with one another.  If we would only allow ourselves to be a little vulnerable than we may find solace in knowing we are not alone.  And in opening ourselves to one another we may find friends that would help us up when we fall just like the words from Ecclesiates 4:9-10

"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil.  For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up."

To a Faith Beyond Ordinary!
Orlando Javien Jr,
The Man of Many Hats

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