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I Don't Want To Do the Dishes!

Good afternoon and welcome back to The Javien Chronicles!   It’s been awhile but I'm glad to have an opportunity to write out my thoughts and to share them with you all.

Yesterday after a full day at work I came home and found myself a bit irritated.  I got home, sat my butt on my Lazy Boy chair and began to relax.  All the while my sweet and beautiful wife was trying to get the kids feed and prepare food for a picnic with our friends.

It was only but 5 minutes into my relaxation when my wife asked me to do the dishes.  Now I’m not against helping out around the house but we had a deal, my wife and I.  I was to focus my attention on bringing home the bacon and she would focus on keeping up with the house.

Now the guys reading this are probably saying, “Yeah, that’s what I’m saying!”  The women are probably saying, “Oh no you didn’t!”

I then made a comment that irritated my wife and I quickly found myself in deep dodo.  Though I knew I was in trouble, the dishes weren’t done because we were off to the picnic.

We got home late and I again encountered the unsightly scene of dishes overflowing the sink.  I looked at them and said, “No, I’m not doing the dishes today, it’s her turn!”
 
I went to bed and awoke bright and early.  As I lay there in bed I thought of how I could avoid the dishes.  Maybe I could oversleep so she would see the dishes first or maybe I could get dressed real fast and leave for work early. 

Then after a bit of an internal struggle, God spoke to me through John 13:12-17.  In this verse Jesus humbles himself and washes the feet of His disciples.

"When he had washed their feet, and taken his garments, and resumed his place, he said to them. “Do you know what I have done to you?  You call me Teacher and Lord; and you are right, for so I am.  If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should do as I have done to you.  Truly, truly, I say to you, a servant is not greater than his master; nor is he who is sent greater than he who sent him.    If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them."

As the verse began to sink into my heart, I realized what I had to do and I remembered what I had told another married man.  "There is no 50/50 in marriage".  "There is only 100/0".  If you learn to give 100% effort with zero expectation than you will truly understand how to make marriage work and understand the heart of Jesus.  Total and absolute giving of oneself to another.
 
To that I say, dishes!  Bring 'em on!

The Man of Many Hats,
Orlando Javien Jr.  

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